Need some freindly advise

[dthys2233]

Please read this and offer some advise. especially you Femdoms out there.
I recently met a life style dom with at leasst 10 years as this. we met by chance in a social enviroment, we. to say the least, hit it of and conected in a social way. I am not a slave nor a submissive I love being smothered, boot and leg worship but thats it.
She is a strong dom with a woman inside, I have reached the woman, I can tell by her wide sparkle in her eyes. the way she touches me and what she says. but the dom will not let her be a woman for to long, its as if whenever the woman tries to get out the dom fights it.
What do I do? Do you think I should run or stay, will a true lifestyle dom ever let the woman out

[Profit Princess]

I don't believe you know what you want. you sound confused. you said she let the woman out. if you are ready for that side or her allow her to make the first move.

[dthys2233]

Thank you Princess,
Yes I am confussed. I want the woman not the dom. she has allready made the first move. But the dom keeps blocking it, I have to much respect for Doms in general to ever try to push it, ,maybe I just wait and learn to accept the Dom as part of the woman

[dthys2233]

Thank you Raven1083
A new development yesterday, the Dom has cancelled slave contracts with several slaves and has also removed her advertising. she asked if she could stay with me for a while as shes wants to spend more time with me, Now can you see why I am confussed?

[Ajax478]

I would say let her spend time with you. I understand whats going on and well just do what comes naturally.

[Jadis]

Please read this and offer some advise. especially you Femdoms out there.
I recently met a life style dom with at leasst 10 years as this. we met by chance in a social enviroment, we. to say the least, hit it of and conected in a social way. I am not a slave nor a submissive I love being smothered, boot and leg worship but thats it.
She is a strong dom with a woman inside, I have reached the woman, I can tell by her wide sparkle in her eyes. the way she touches me and what she says. but the dom will not let her be a woman for to long, its as if whenever the woman tries to get out the dom fights it.
What do I do? Do you think I should run or stay, will a true lifestyle dom ever let the woman out

It is very possible to be dominant and a woman, often times at the same time ... it's probably just that the relationship is so early, you've yet to learn each other's manners and cues yet. Let her lead, and maybe you should embrace a bit of her world and follow. You don't have to be submissive to have fetishes that need to be met (a lot of the trample/smother men tend to have fetish based interests rather than BDSM based ones).

Maybe discuss with her the thoughts and feelings you're having. If she doesn't know there's an issue, she's not going to be able to change it for you. You need to keep that communication and conversation open for all situations ... not just in the BDSM aspects.

Sometimes it's hard to be both (depending on your mood) but most times you'll see traces of both aspects in play ... and it's a much more full filling experience (I believe) when you can open up on both levels without fear of rejection, confusion, disinterst or misunderstanding. So talk talk talk ... that's the only way to make sure that all details are covered and the comfort level is reached.

xox Lady Jadis

[dthys2233]

Thank you Lady Jadis.
Fantastic feed back. just what I was looking for, I wish you all the wonders of the world and I take everything you said on board
Again Thank you MY LADY

[Jadis]

Thank you Lady Jadis.
Fantastic feed back. just what I was looking for, I wish you all the wonders of the world and I take everything you said on board
Again Thank you MY LADY

You're quite welcome :) and let us know how things go ... it's always wonderful to watch the growth of a couple together!

[dthys2233]

Hi Lady Jadis and everyone
I am opening up to the BDSM side to help the relationship grow, we are experimenting with some light stuff, and its actually quite hot, boy it really makes normal sex good as well, I can not tell you who I am sharing this relationship with, only to say she is world famous and has quite a fan base, most of you will know of her from movies ect, I am a really lucky guy, I have let her lead so far but have now begun to help her make some of the decisions, she knows I will never be her Slave but I dont beleive she really wants me to, I beleive she has fallen in love with me as I have with her but slowly, slowly is the way forward, its quite a different lifestyle direction for both of us.
Again thanks to everyone who commented on this saga, esspecially you Lady Jadis

[catmistress]

Oh My Devils!! Sorry dave - I trust that you misread Me and My intentions. I had no intention whatsoever at any time to persue any vanilla lifestyle --- it just isn't Me - at all - ever, never.

I Am A Domme -- and this I remain.

Thanks, however, for accommodating Me and the fun films W/we made.


--- vanilla --- eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeww --- yuck


Mistress Cleo, The CATMISTRESS, RULER of all pigs & hounds
currently in South Africa, enroute Europe


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Hi Lady Jadis and everyone
I am opening up to the BDSM side to help the relationship grow, we are experimenting with some light stuff, and its actually quite hot, boy it really makes normal sex good as well, I can not tell you who I am sharing this relationship with, only to say she is world famous and has quite a fan base, most of you will know of her from movies ect, I am a really lucky guy, I have let her lead so far but have now begun to help her make some of the decisions, she knows I will never be her Slave but I dont beleive she really wants me to, I beleive she has fallen in love with me as I have with her but slowly, slowly is the way forward, its quite a different lifestyle direction for both of us.
Again thanks to everyone who commented on this saga, esspecially you Lady Jadis

[catmistress]

THERE WAS NEVER NEVER NEVER any 'normal' sex between U/us.

Smothering was clothes ON - not ever naked - and for the purpose of films.

I don't know whom you were referring to as 'normal sex' --- certainly wasn't Me!!!!

Oh My Devils, I can't believe what I am reading.


STOP!!!!

*kicks subby*

CATMISTRESS

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Hi Lady Jadis and everyone
I am opening up to the BDSM side to help the relationship grow, we are experimenting with some light stuff, and its actually quite hot, boy it really makes normal sex good as well, I can not tell you who I am sharing this relationship with, only to say she is world famous and has quite a fan base, most of you will know of her from movies ect, I am a really lucky guy, I have let her lead so far but have now begun to help her make some of the decisions, she knows I will never be her Slave but I dont beleive she really wants me to, I beleive she has fallen in love with me as I have with her but slowly, slowly is the way forward, its quite a different lifestyle direction for both of us.
Again thanks to everyone who commented on this saga, esspecially you Lady Jadis

[catmistress]

DISGUSTING! THAT IS WHAT IT IS!!

AaaaaarrrrrrrrrGH

CATMISTRESS

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You're quite welcome :) and let us know how things go ... it's always wonderful to watch the growth of a couple together!

[catmistress]

Since when did I like older men??????????????

....never!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Catmistress


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i would say let her spend time with you. I understand whats going on and well just do what comes naturally.

[catmistress]

I have NEVER cancelled any slave contracts - A Domme does NOT do that.

When a Domme tires of a slave - it is discussed with a slave to terminate a contract or to be passed on to another Domme.

I could NEVER betray a slave's devotion and servitude.

you underestimate Me.

Ssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!

CATMISTRESS

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Thank you Raven1083
A new development yesterday, the Dom has cancelled slave contracts with several slaves and has also removed her advertising. she asked if she could stay with me for a while as shes wants to spend more time with me, Now can you see why I am confussed?

[catmistress]

Thank You ProfitPrincess :) haha Yesssssssssssss, We DO know that The Woman IS The Domme...

In social respects, I had to refrain from My Own Nature in his presence... the sparkles in My eyes are Me, My Dominant Nature IS Me....

I Use A HUGE strap-on and the subby is gay phobic.

Alas he never truely submitted.

I hope he finds his vanilla mate --- I'm NOT it.

I am way outside the square and certainly NOT VANILLA!!!!!!!!!

CATMISTRESS


I don't believe you know what you want. you sound confused. you said she let the woman out. if you are ready for that side or her allow her to make the first move.

[catmistress]

W/we came together to make films --- that is all. W/we knew of eachother as you had approached Me by phone in response to My ProDomme advertising to make Me aware of your own Gigolo advertising as a smother toy.

you were interested to make smother movies with Me.

That is all.

I understand that I have the X-factor. I cannot help this, I was born this way. I can therefore NOT apologise for My X-factor nor explain to you what you misread of Me.

I AM I,

CATMISTRESS
THE LAW IS: the slaves shall serve.

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Please read this and offer some advise. especially you Femdoms out there.
I recently met a life style dom with at leasst 10 years as this. we met by chance in a social enviroment, we. to say the least, hit it of and conected in a social way. I am not a slave nor a submissive I love being smothered, boot and leg worship but thats it.
She is a strong dom with a woman inside, I have reached the woman, I can tell by her wide sparkle in her eyes. the way she touches me and what she says. but the dom will not let her be a woman for to long, its as if whenever the woman tries to get out the dom fights it.
What do I do? Do you think I should run or stay, will a true lifestyle dom ever let the woman out

[Jadis]

DISGUSTING! THAT IS WHAT IT IS!!

AaaaaarrrrrrrrrGH

CATMISTRESS

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I appreciate your irritation and disturbance in this matter if - indeed- the situation is not as presented. If necesary I shall remove posts and delete threads ... but I do think that you've made your point quite clear: thank you :)

We try to keep a friendly, understanding, and helpful tone here on MDFF and that extends to the submissives as well as Dominants. So I hope you find a more comfortable situation here the next time you post.

xox Lady Jadis

[dthys2233]

My appologies to Catmistress and everyone else, I missread and disrespected a true Dom. everthing Catmistress has said is true, I got truely infatuated with this lady. she is really something special, if any of you ever get the chance to work with her DO IT you will not ever forget your experience,
Again Catmistress I am truely sorry