madamepontellier
12-28-2011, 1:19 PM
I've seen a few posts where guys are wishing their wives would face-sit them, trample them, or play Dominatrix. So I thought I'd share my experience going from a 100% vanilla sex relationship to one that includes a heavy rotation of FemDom.
TL;DR - Make it super easy for her at first, don't make her think or guess. Tell her exactly what you want, EXACTLY. Show her some videos from the internet and talk about what's sexy in each one. If you talk to her when you're both in a sexy mood, she's not going to think you're strange.
Rule number one: make it really easy for her. Even if she’s not aroused by your kinks, a loving wife will oblige you if it’s easy for her, and she can see how excited you get. Sexy lady isn’t a mind reader, and there is nothing more taxing than trying to be imaginative to someone else’s fetish. This is the first stumbling block for most couples. You need to tell her exactly what you want her to do. Tell her how to stand, tell her how to talk to you, tell her what kind of smile to give you as she’s looking back at you kissing her ass. You can be too specific or tedious, just don’t make her guess or improvise (not at first anyway)
As an example, say you want to worship her ass. You know what this means to you. Here’s how you might tell her, after giving her a great orgasm in whatever way is familiar to both of you:
Baby, go get your black high heels
OK, she prances back in with the heels on. The heels are great they make her legs long and slender and the push her ass up into a big supple bubble. Now tell her so, make her feel sexy and relaxed.
OK sexy, stand in the middle of the room with your legs shoulder width apart, and good strong posture.
Now that she’s standing there looking like a statue and your rock hard looking at the perfect bubble butt give her some words
Now I want you to tell me, “crawl over here and kiss my ass from your hands an knees”
As you crawl over salivating give her something to do while your make love to her ass cheeks with your lips
When you’re ready, look over your shoulder and give me that look you give me when I say something inappropriate in public.
That’s the gist of it. At first you’re going to put words in her mouth, looks on her face, and pose her like a doll. Don’t worry, she’s smart and really soon she’ll catch on and start to improvise on her own.
This works fine in person, but it’s even easier to do it while watching some fetish videos together where you can skip ahead if the action is slow. Unfortunately most femdom video websites are packaged very harshly. They’re basically the internet equivalent of a biker bar. Not someplace you’d go with your wife. Licensed femdom videos site MadamePontellier.com (http://www.madamepontellier.com) has a clean look that will help you out here. The videos are nicely presented in a newbie friendly setting that will be comfortable to your wife.
Rule 2: Delight her with surprises. Try to surprise and delight her as she’s exploring your fetish with you. For example if your fetish is S and M, buy a new fetish toy for her to use, wrap it nicely in some pink gift wrap and hide it under the bed. Next time she has you ass-up whipping you, reach under the bed and retrieve your present to her as a tithing to stop the punishment. She’ll love the surprise and since you’re both already in a femdom mindset it’s really easy to introduce the new toy. There's lots of places to get BDSM toys in the internet. I just recommend you stay way from Amazon/Ebay/etc..since your search history will be shown to the next person using your PC and visiting Amazon/Ebay. I've tried to put some some of the best sex toys (http://www.madamepontellier.com) from the videos on Madame Pontellier, and your privacy is one of my main concerns
Rule 3: Relax and have fun. This all sounds like serious business, but it’s not. It’s just about two people discovering what turns them on, and enjoying it together in the privacy of their own home.
Now go get your fetish on with that lovely lady of yours!
TL;DR - Make it super easy for her at first, don't make her think or guess. Tell her exactly what you want, EXACTLY. Show her some videos from the internet and talk about what's sexy in each one. If you talk to her when you're both in a sexy mood, she's not going to think you're strange.
Rule number one: make it really easy for her. Even if she’s not aroused by your kinks, a loving wife will oblige you if it’s easy for her, and she can see how excited you get. Sexy lady isn’t a mind reader, and there is nothing more taxing than trying to be imaginative to someone else’s fetish. This is the first stumbling block for most couples. You need to tell her exactly what you want her to do. Tell her how to stand, tell her how to talk to you, tell her what kind of smile to give you as she’s looking back at you kissing her ass. You can be too specific or tedious, just don’t make her guess or improvise (not at first anyway)
As an example, say you want to worship her ass. You know what this means to you. Here’s how you might tell her, after giving her a great orgasm in whatever way is familiar to both of you:
Baby, go get your black high heels
OK, she prances back in with the heels on. The heels are great they make her legs long and slender and the push her ass up into a big supple bubble. Now tell her so, make her feel sexy and relaxed.
OK sexy, stand in the middle of the room with your legs shoulder width apart, and good strong posture.
Now that she’s standing there looking like a statue and your rock hard looking at the perfect bubble butt give her some words
Now I want you to tell me, “crawl over here and kiss my ass from your hands an knees”
As you crawl over salivating give her something to do while your make love to her ass cheeks with your lips
When you’re ready, look over your shoulder and give me that look you give me when I say something inappropriate in public.
That’s the gist of it. At first you’re going to put words in her mouth, looks on her face, and pose her like a doll. Don’t worry, she’s smart and really soon she’ll catch on and start to improvise on her own.
This works fine in person, but it’s even easier to do it while watching some fetish videos together where you can skip ahead if the action is slow. Unfortunately most femdom video websites are packaged very harshly. They’re basically the internet equivalent of a biker bar. Not someplace you’d go with your wife. Licensed femdom videos site MadamePontellier.com (http://www.madamepontellier.com) has a clean look that will help you out here. The videos are nicely presented in a newbie friendly setting that will be comfortable to your wife.
Rule 2: Delight her with surprises. Try to surprise and delight her as she’s exploring your fetish with you. For example if your fetish is S and M, buy a new fetish toy for her to use, wrap it nicely in some pink gift wrap and hide it under the bed. Next time she has you ass-up whipping you, reach under the bed and retrieve your present to her as a tithing to stop the punishment. She’ll love the surprise and since you’re both already in a femdom mindset it’s really easy to introduce the new toy. There's lots of places to get BDSM toys in the internet. I just recommend you stay way from Amazon/Ebay/etc..since your search history will be shown to the next person using your PC and visiting Amazon/Ebay. I've tried to put some some of the best sex toys (http://www.madamepontellier.com) from the videos on Madame Pontellier, and your privacy is one of my main concerns
Rule 3: Relax and have fun. This all sounds like serious business, but it’s not. It’s just about two people discovering what turns them on, and enjoying it together in the privacy of their own home.
Now go get your fetish on with that lovely lady of yours!