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11-26-2011, 8:33 PM
Mistress Sarah, a citizen of the OWK, who has had a male slave partner for ten years answers this question very well on her Femdom Society UK (http://www.femdomsociety.co.uk/) web site as follows:
Understanding that my man wants to be submissive to me is very liberating. Femdom for me is not just about leather and whips, thats only part of it - and in many ways his fantasy, its also about getting the chores done without a row, being able to make my own mind up, take decisions and have my own way. In a male world where women have been brought up to believe they can't take charge its not always as easy as it sounds. Undertanding he wants to submit to me sexually means I can have the kind of sex I want or a massage or pedicure when I want, all I need to do is put on a strict voice or grab his nipples and he immediately becomes submissive. Its incredibly liberating. If I take it further, put on a leather dress or pick up a crop, he will do anything for me. At parties or at OWK going to the bar and being served first is something I think any woman would appreciate as well as at home having doors opened for you, being treated like a Lady, listened to and having your opinions taken seriously. The lifestyle leads to a very close and loving relationship with fewer rows and great sex, his complete submission and devotion to me leads to great security, I know he's not going stray.
To take this further we try, when we can, to get into greater DS headspace (S&M headspace is about something different endorphins and out of mind experiences), which is an incredible mind altering state, which you can really only find out for yourself. I think the best description is a total focus on what you are doing (caning or sex) but with a clear awareness of your surroundings, I can do what I want with no subconscious inhibitions or cares but at the same time remain very focused.
Understanding that my man wants to be submissive to me is very liberating. Femdom for me is not just about leather and whips, thats only part of it - and in many ways his fantasy, its also about getting the chores done without a row, being able to make my own mind up, take decisions and have my own way. In a male world where women have been brought up to believe they can't take charge its not always as easy as it sounds. Undertanding he wants to submit to me sexually means I can have the kind of sex I want or a massage or pedicure when I want, all I need to do is put on a strict voice or grab his nipples and he immediately becomes submissive. Its incredibly liberating. If I take it further, put on a leather dress or pick up a crop, he will do anything for me. At parties or at OWK going to the bar and being served first is something I think any woman would appreciate as well as at home having doors opened for you, being treated like a Lady, listened to and having your opinions taken seriously. The lifestyle leads to a very close and loving relationship with fewer rows and great sex, his complete submission and devotion to me leads to great security, I know he's not going stray.
To take this further we try, when we can, to get into greater DS headspace (S&M headspace is about something different endorphins and out of mind experiences), which is an incredible mind altering state, which you can really only find out for yourself. I think the best description is a total focus on what you are doing (caning or sex) but with a clear awareness of your surroundings, I can do what I want with no subconscious inhibitions or cares but at the same time remain very focused.