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ilikebubblebutts
01-04-2011, 5:21 PM
I want a chance for everybody on this site to read this because i have an important view of equal human rights for society, which this whole BDSM scene is obscuring. This is my opinion, and i respect all opinions and comments anyone has. I was lured into the whole scene because of my ass and facesitting obsession, which started taking away my dignity when i started to believe what these dominant women were telling me. Degrading myself, lowering my already low self esteem, and turning on the evils of ego against me. I started to read up on articles to help me, and i started writing journals everyday, while seeing great improvement, thank god! But I realized I was losing total integrity every time I went to get off to facesitting mistresses, because I didn't have any principles or standards to keep, so all the words they said, I would believe! Things like, I'm scum, i'm nothing, worthless. What the fuck is this? GOD HAS RESPECTED AND CREATED US ALL EQUALLY

My ego was judging my pure thoughts, making me super self conscious, and giving me a depression. We should all give ourselves respect without insecurity for who we are and the thoughts we have. So now I tell you, my submissives, that you can't go through this unless you know your principles and KNOW that anything you do to these dommes or anything they do to you will NOT move you! You're strong, and we should respect and judge everyone EQUALLY for who they are!! Our judgement says that these women are much greater than us, for materialistic things! That's an immoral and stubborn thing to say. You can't judge a man's worth by the size of his cock, a woman by her boob size, a student by his grade. You can judge the cock, the boobs, and the grade only, not the person's worth!! You can be thankful for these things but you can't put others down with smaller cock size, boobs, etc. Your ego is just asking for destruction, it wants to better than others by comparison. We should learn to use our humility and raise ourselves and everyone around us, no matter what they're status is.

I won't be doing anything having to do with BDSM unless I am strong enough to not be told who I am. I still like facesitting, thats just natural, my judgement/ego was the one telling me that I was unworthy. And again, I'd just like to send my inspiration out to any of you guys in despair. If you decide to stay the way you are, I respect that too. Stay strong, and NEVER FORGET YOUR FUCKING DIGNITY!!! We are humans, not slaves!!

PS: If a mod could sticky this, that would be nice

- A soul finding enlightment

DanniPandemos
01-05-2011, 8:32 AM
I can understand where you're coming from, but you don't have to associate your fetish with degradation and humiliation or with being a slave. You can enjoy facesitting and ass licking simply for what it is.

When I see a Domina to lick boots, being submissive isn't really part of it. I just enjoy licking boots!

Sauur
01-06-2011, 8:53 AM
Just compartmentalize your fetish. I for one like being degraded/humiliated however outside of the fetish world it has never effected my self-esteem. What happens in your play space shouldn't bleed over into how you feel about yourself.

face4wife2sit
01-06-2011, 8:18 PM
It is entirely in the attitude of both the domina and her slave. She can do degrading things to him in such a loving way, it becomes a beautiful experience for both. Professional dominatrices know this very well and that's why they ask their client first if he wants humiliation or worship. If he chooses worship, their attitude is quite different, even when the act is the same. See? For non-professional women, the distinction may not be quite as clear, and that may be the reason that you're frustrated. They are not treating you with love and respect. Sometimes they cannot separate reality from the fantasy.

However, if you're at a point in your life where you can no longer see a positive side to the scene, then it may not be for you any more.

sinbad
01-07-2011, 7:32 PM
Sounds like you may have had some bad experiences buddy. Sorry to hear that. You do what you need to do to keep your self asteem, and dignity at the right levels for you you to feel good about yourself.
sinbad

bakerboy68
01-08-2011, 1:58 AM
I thoght that the Tea Party fizzled out already.... I guess NOT :lilgump: