Opinion and Question

[zangorz]

My opinion towards facesitting is that the man should endure suffering while she is relaxing. and facesitting is to be used as a punishmen, controlling technique and proofing of power exchange in addition to comfortable different type of seats.
In brief I am 30 years old male. I have not been into real facesitting session before but I can't stop thinking about it all the time. I have not been into any sexual relation as my society rules prevents that unless marriage takes place.
My question is What is the effect of being obsessed by the idea of facesitting on my ability to have successful sexual relationship with my future wife? Or in other words I am so afraid to fail in having average straight sexual relationship because I get the eriction when thinking about facesitting better than thinking about the sex.
Can someone explain ... i need answers from both males and mistresses...
zangorz;)

[Gooch]

IMO

To enjoy a normal sexual relationship with the one you will marry, you need to be able to "get it up" for the standard and regular ways (not just for facesitting). How do you think you think you will be able to ask your date if she is into facesitting / smothering? It's one thing if you have a girlfriend and experiment on sexual fetishes, knowing that there is no commitment involved. But with a wife, you better be sure you can get it up for normal sex.
I for one love the feeling of facesitting, etc. But it took me over 5 years to get my wife somewhat into it (ever so little). Imagine if I was unable to have normal sex until now ... I doubt we still would be married.

By the way ... what is hindering you having sex before marriage? Are you a religious person (Jew, hindu), or just your family values?

[zangorz]

First thank u for your quick response..
Yes i am religious and the family as well so i can't get into sex before marriage. I have very strong eriction but I am afraid of that idea of facesitting ..i don't want to bring my wife up to FS ..i want to know how big is the problem or there is no problem at all.
thanks

[abbbbb99]

it is clear that, unless your wife has known your fetishes before getting married, and either she is also into it or she has agreed to accept you "as is", you have a serious problem on hand.

you neither have had sex or facesitting experience. But you know that you get extremely turned on by facesitting. my question is, do you get turned on by normal sex - i.e. you see an extremely gorgeous girl, do you feel you could have normal sex with her ? if not, you should be careful before getting married.

you see, not that many percent of people in general, but females in particular, have an interest in facesitting. girls may enjoy it as part of overall foreplay, but their ultimate satisfaction and goal is real sex. (in reality, femdom is more of an interest among guys than girls - not many girls are interested in femdom. that is a real paradox - girls are not interested in getting power over guys, but guys are interested in having girls have power over them)

so what could you do ? one, don't marry till you find someone who is absolutely into facesitting (very few girls and difficult to find those who are interested - you could try alt.com and stuff like that to find; but not conventional match-making agencies or classifieds which have a higher chance of success than internet bureaus, do not offer "facesitting" or "trampling" as areas of interest !)

two, if you could use facesitting to get you into the mood, and then switch to normal sex, then you are in luck. you could get your wife to facesit you as part of foreplay. then, you can give her real sex that she wants.

if you can't even do two, your last option is to use your imagination. while having sex, many people are fantasising about something or someone else (but of course no one tells their sexual partner that unless both are of very broad-mind and liberal nature). most girls are not pretty. so guys are imagining someone else while having sex with their wives - imagining they are doing it to cyndy crawford or someone else ! or else, 80% of girls in the world will not be able to get any sex ! so, while having sex with your wife, use your imagination to think you are being facesat. you will get a good erection and give her good sex.

i would expect most people be able to do the last option (ie using imagination to think something else is happening) and it should work for you. but you need to honestly evaluate whether it would be feasible for you before you get married

[zangorz]

Thank you for your time and the valuable information and advice.
I can be turned on when thinking about normal sex too but not like when thinking about FS. and some times when i got a special touch or being in emotional situation with a girl of my friends I can feel the erection too. I think in this case taking into consideration your last point as an option that will work.
The other thing that I feel is whenever there is love "i mean special feelings toward some girl" that starts eriction easily more than thinking about any girl based only on the lust.
what is you opinion about that????
zangorz

[abbbbb99]

i always felt that love and lust are two totally different things.

i like & love girls who are sweet, cute, caring, and very nice like angels. i love them in the sense that i care for them absoultely, want to take care of them and will do everything to make them happy.

but i don't really feel like having sex with them.

i lust after bitchy, arrogant, sexy, "bad" girls who will dominate me, facesit me, trample me, bully me, tie me up, beat me, whip me, make me their slaves. but i obviously don't love these girls as they are not "nice" angels.

so, that is a dilemma i face, and hence the need to use imagination while having sex with the girl i love.

rare is the breed (but it does exist) girls who are really nice cute angels, but also can act bitchy & dominant & mean & unreasonable at times for the sexual pleasure.

[Rich]

Find your sole mate. In other words, find the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. This is the one and only reason to get married. If she happens to be into facesitting consider yourself truly lucky.
Sex is very important to me right now. Facesitting is my fetish. But I know the day will come when all those things will fade away. At that time, I want to be with the woman I love. If I'm with the woman I want to be facesat by, I will truly be alone. :cool:

[Rennoch]

to be alone is to be the single seed from a pod, which blossoms not into a flower, for fear of withering away in old age.

[MarriedDomme]

Its hard to imagine that a woman who is married wouldnt perform facesitting scenes with her husband. A husband will still need to be able to perform sex, but a wife should try and do things that she knows turns him on. Once your that close in a relationship, just about anything goes..depending on what she thinks is too perverted. But facesitting is more accepted by a female than people think, once its explain and tried....It can be fun. :)

[zangorz]

It is very important to hear the point from the Female's point of view .... let wives, mistresses and girls participate please.
Thanks
zangorz