pos. newcomer to the world of trample.

[farmkid]

I think I may have found a new addition to the world trample! A young woman moved in next door to me a few weeks back and we got along right off the batt. Since she is new to the area she didn’t know anyone here, so I invited her to go out with me and some friends. She now comes over on a regular basis. A few days ago I asked her to walk on my back for me because it was really stiff. (She has a boy friend, out of state so I wasn’t looking to get trampled just my back popped) I’m really into shiatsu and reflex ology, I’m told I’m really good at both. So in return for walking on me I gave her a foot massage. About an hour later we were still talking about shiatsu, I was describing how to do a toe flex, I think that’s what its called. I decided to take a chance and asked her if she wanted to try it. She jumped right up and walked over to the counter she had used to balance her self earlier, saying sure with a big smile as she walked. I was stunned she had been so nervous about hurting me the first time I didn’t think she would want to. This time my back popped in three places. Talk about heaven she only stayed on my back for about three minutes but I was so relaxed it took almost two minutes for me to recover enough to stand up! She’s a natural! She also made a comment about wanting to learn more.
Well that was on Sunday, on Monday she came over after work to watch tv. I could tell she had a long day so I asked her if she’d like another foot massage. She said no but she would walk on my back if I wanted, “she actually sounded eager to do it”. I think the foot massage I gave her the night before ended up turning her on a little and she was afraid it would again. It clicked in my head right then because the night before she was reading one of my books on reflex ology while I was massaging her feet, hiding her face from view most of the time, but when I could see her face she would have a look of concentration on her face she would also bite her lower lip on occasion. This brings me too a hard decision. I would like to tell her about my fetish, hopping that in doing so she wouldn’t be afraid of getting caught getting turned on. I think she also may have started to get turned on while walking on me the second night. She walked on me for about 15 minutes, the last few minutes she started to bounce lightly. I could tell she was trying to hide the bouncing as if she was having trouble balancing. She jumped off of me very suddenly, with one foot on either side of me, and just stood over me for about a minute. When I looked at her over my shoulder, it looked like she started to get a little red faced, she smiled at me and walked over to the couch saying that she thought that was enough for tonight. I apologized for just letting her go for so long. And told her that she should just stop when she’s had enough because if she left it up to me I would likely let her keep going all night.
I think my biggest worry is that I don’t want to over step the bounds of friendship. As I said above she has a boyfriend, I don’t have a problem with the idea of helping her find out if she has a fetish and even exploring it. But don’t want to do something that could hurt her relationship with her boyfriend.

any advice



Farmkid

[UnderBuffy]

Hey Farmkid,

First of all, advice is only an opinion to be pondered.
Second of all, here's mine. If you haven't any interest in this girl other than friendship, keep it that way. If you do have an interest in her, then still keep it that way, for now. If she's just lonely, and missing her boyfriend, you could not only jeapodize their relationship, but also the one that you share with each other.

On the other hand, you might want to feel around a little bit, and find out exactly how serious their relationship is. What you're doing may be totally innocent on your part, but to her it could be a way out of something that she doesn't want to be in anymore. You never mentioned why he was out of state?

As many of us know, revealing your fetish to someone can be a risky venture. It can turn out to be something wonderful, or backfire altogether. I guess it all depends on how important this girl is to you as a friend. Is it worth losing her? Then again, if you feel confident enough that telling her won't affect the relationship that you have with her now, go for it.

Weigh the options carefully. Telling her might enhance what you have with her now, and may not even affect what they have, or telling her may allow her to open up about how she feels about you, and why. It could very well be possible that she's looking for a change.

I guess what I'm saying is that telling someone is a risk we all take, and if there are problems in their relationship, they were there before she met you. If you do have feelings for her though, understand that you might just be something new, and transitional.

I hope some of this makes sense to you, I've been up for 24 hours. As with any advice, take what you can use, and leave the rest. :)

[farmkid]

thanks for the advice

she moved in next to me for school she is in an intern program and will only be here for three months. her boyfriend is not in the same program hence not here. this is not question of starting a relationship but perhapse helping her explore a posible fetish she may or may not have. In the few weeks that I've known her I've found that she is very open to trying new things and opened minded. what I worry about is that we will find out that she has the fetish but her boyfriend won't be open to it. in other words is she better off not knowing. so what do you think?

[livingfurniture]

Ok, here's my 1 cent worth. (not realy worth 2 cents)
If she has the fetish, then it is already there, and will come out eventualy, and if she is married to this guy by then, and he doesn't like it, oops. Life just got very screwed up. At that point she has desires that cannot be met. This could lead to unfaithfulness, and eventualy divorce. In my opinion, it is always better to know everything about yourself, and your potential mate. If they belong together, then Her knowing will be a benifit to their relationship. If not, they are both better with someone more suited to their taste. Did that make sense? It's 8:00am here, and I haven't been asleep yet. Not going to either.